Dear "How To Do It:" If a straight man receives oral from a trans or gay man does that make the straight man gay? Asking for a friend. Signed: Not My Friend

Dear NMF,

I don't know, you tell me. Was the head so good that it made you (I mean your friend) gay?

I doubt it. In response to your query, I am inclined to wax philosophical about the spectrum of sexuality and the pros and cons of declaring an attendant identity. And while I think that everyone should be doing a little more thinking than they already are, especially about sex, given your rather (no offense) rudimentary question, I don't want to bog you down with concepts that could freak you out or otherwise interfere with your enjoyment. I think that could be a disservice to the guys servicing you, as well as you. So just sit back and enjoy. (Above book cover. Book available on Amazon.)