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From an Apollo Man: I turned 80 last year, and I have some questions
Posted by Ron
Friday, January 29th 2016 @ 08:50:39 AM EST

1. The bar scene is not a good fit for me. Where are other places to meet that would be safe and appropriate?

A: When meeting a person for the first time, a public place is always best. If all goes well, then go to a restaurant for second base. After eating a meal you should know if it is time "to go all the way."

2. There is a man who I met on Apollo, and we have been trying to meet in person for at least six months. Is that too long, or is my patience a sign to him that I want to get to know him a great deal more? And that I am willing to wait for him?

A: I'm not sure if anything can be too long if the delays have been mutual. If he has been "chasing you" and you haven't responded. Then maybe it is too long. Have you seen photos of this guy and asked questions like: "What kind of work do you do, and where do you live, and who was you last partner?"

3. I have some difficulty driving because of my shoulder issues. He lives about an hour away. Am I expecting too much for him to drive to see me?

A: Tell him of your driving problem. If he's not willing to drive an hour, that tells you something. And still, be sure to meet him in a public place where you can walk away a lot easier than getting him to leave your home.

4. What is an appropriate length of time to wait for a reply before just giving up?

A: Put a time on the request. "As I need to know how to plan, and let me know by..." If he is serious, he will respond. The ball is in his court, and how he "returns the serve" tells you what you want to know.

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