My Direct TV recorder has a mind of its own and records things that it "thinks" that I will like. This week it recorded reruns of the successful HBO series, "Sex and the City." I yelled obscenities at recorder as I had never once watched those programs, but in trying to delete them, I hit the wrong button and started watching one. (Freudian slip?)

What I found was that this favorite long running show that straight males adore was the gayest thing I had ever seen on television - okay, maybe "Tales of the City" was more overtly gay, but not much. My only knowledge of this series was that it was produced by a gay man, and apparently all the writers were gay, too, not to mention one of the four women. Obviously the clothes designers were all "family" and managed to come up with outrageously colored dresses never seen on the streets of NYC unless the circus was in town.

If you think I exaggerate, in your mind's eye pretend the four women are men, and listen to how they talk about and treat the opposite sex. Their conversations are not how women talk about men; they are how men want women to talk and feel about men. The show is every straight man's wet dream and fantasy of the opposite sex.

We all know that the best kept secret in our mostly straight world is that entertainment is the gayest medium in ours or any culture.* What makes it this way is not just throwing in an occasional effeminate character. Even all male war movies –especially all male war movies- have a theme of bonding that borders of male affection. Do not tell this to any of your straight male friends who enjoy the theater and entertainment. Although not all writers and actors are members of our club, without gay people Hollywood and Broadway would go dark forever.

Bottom line is if you are not finding good gay entertainment on television, just watch something like S and the City, and invert the character's roles.

*Religious societies have figured out that entertainment is gay. Even Shakespeare's great works were closed down by the Puritans' rule. And when do you ever think that a Broadway play like "The Producers" will be staged in a Muslim controlled country? I do not see the populace of Tehran ever humming its hit song, "Keep it Gay."